- "Open adoption" where the mother allows someone else to adopt the baby but the birth mother remains a part of the baby's life. In this situation the birth mother and adoptive parents may agree upon and set up guidelines that work for both of them. These details are best set up early on so everyone is clear on what they expect, and there are no hassles later on.
- "Closed adoption" is when the birth mother's identity is hidden and there is no relationship with the child.
Some pregnant teens find an open adoption helps them to be able to cope with adoption better because they do not feel so much like they are giving a child away. While others feel that a closed adoption will allow them to break ties with the past and move on, and give the baby a better chance to adjust to their new family without confusion.
Whether you choose open or closed adoption is is important to choose a reputable adoption agency to work through. If you get to the opportunity to choose the family for your baby, make sure you choose a family you feel will give your child the best chance of success.
Abortion is the other option if you choose not to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. Abortion is when a pregnancy ends before a fetus is able to live outside the mother. If a pregnancy ends spontaneously within the first 24 weeks it is called a miscarriage. If the pregnancy is deliberately terminated it is called an abortion. Every state is different when it comes to abortion laws so if you are considering this option find out what the law is in your state. Some states will notify parents of teens who are seeking an abortion prior to the abortion. You should also educate yourself on the procedures and medical implications.
When you are a teenager and pregnant these decisions do not come easy. You should carefully consider all of your options and do what you feel is best for you and your baby.
